Mother's Day has never been a guilt trip day for me, but I do have to manage my expectations, especially with little ones around. For instance, today one of my children was so naughty that I actually shed tears of frustration. (Can't remember the last time that happened - go figure.) But another crept quietly into my bed and and snuggled me til my spirits lifted. And then Dad cooked three different types of fish for dinner! So, definitely a good day.
If I could take just a second to send out a tribute to my mother and mother in law... it's still Mother's Day in the States so this counts, right? :) I've reflected lately at how little we consider motherhood until we are actually down in the trenches of it. There's no way I could have ever appreciated the depth of sacrifice and loving commitment my mother devoted until recently. Every year I gain a slightly clearer perception of the sheer logistics of my mother(s) accomplishments in raising 6-7 children so well. It's just not something you can really describe with our limited human vocabulary.
Motherhood is an exercise of the heart.
No matter what culture, society, financial income or walk of life, mothers are bound by one common thread.
Love. Pure, unadulterated, other-worldly, powerful LOVE. It's a force
not to reckoned with, measured or equaled. In this sense I share the same sentiment so many others have before me - the complete, albeit impossible to communicate, indebtedness I feel towards my beautiful mother and my overwhelming desire to live up to her example as I now, in turn, am a mother.
When I say "in the trenches" I don't mean to paint it darkly (although, let's not pretend it isn't
THE hardest job on earth) but the struggle of it is so gloriously off-set by the exhilarating joy of those special, unexpected moments unveiled at random, as to completely overshadow the rough patches. Motherhood is the most rewarding job on earth. No matter how hard the duties, the simple love of a child outshines every strain.
And this is what I'm learning. And what my mother(s) learned before me. And what my daughters will get to learn in turn. It's God's gift to women and I'm grateful every day for it. And whether a woman gets to enjoy such a blessing in this life or the next, we all have been mothered and endowed with innate qualities that allow us to nurture and love like only women can. So, on this Mother's Day, allow me to share a few of my favorite qualities of my mothers that I hope to emulate.
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| My #1 fan during Beauty & the Beast. (And only picture of mom I have on this computer!) |
My mother, is one of those
golden women who can seriously do it all. Multi-talented (knitting, violin, sewing, piano, dance, teacher, Miss Utah, etc.) and multi-tasking extraordinaire (a TN friend witnessed her applying makeup with one hand, punching down bread dough with the other while nursing me in the car-line pick up at school, no joke!) she is a go-go-go, do-do-do type of lady. Needless to say, she gave us a full childhood. She is thrifty, organized, resourceful, creative, cheerful and never says "no." Exhibiting an energizer-bunny level of energy, her enthusiasm for even the lowest of tasks is contagious. Life is fun with Bonnie around. And talk about an adored grandma. She is so
present when she's around children - always laughing, hugging, down on their level and utilizing every teaching moment. It's beautiful to watch. Her most admirable quality though is easily the amount of selfless service she gives. She has an unbelievably high tolerance level for inconvenience, in fact she probably doesn't even see it as such, so she is able to meet others needs and desires to a heroic degree. If I could do half as much for other people as she does, I'm sure I'd earn my place in heaven. I love you, Mom!
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| Mom Lorayne at Summer's baby blessing. |
And I should really have Darren add to this, but from my perspective I've been blessed with
the best mother-in-law a gal could have. Lorayne is one solid lady. Raised 7 children strong in the gospel with no background experience to speak of, and virtual mother to hundreds more in the single adult wards she's served, she is the epitome of quiet strength. She serves without expectation, is a generous giver of unexpected gifts and a pure example of what it means to be "without guile." She's a kick, too. So quirky and fun, she's the first to laugh at herself and always the one to see the silver lining. With a positive outlook on every discouragement life might bring, nothing seems to get her down. She quietly goes about helping, teaching, and giving of herself with no sense of fanfare or reward. A truly selfless soul, I love her like my own. And every grandchild is enamored with her gentle love. Not only does she act as a sort of anchor of stability for those around her, but she's been blessed with the unique gift of knowing when to step in, and when to step back and let you find your wings. What a blessing she is in our lives! I love you, Lorayne!
Happy Mothers Day!
Of course Darren had never been and my time there was mostly spent biking around the neighborhoods sharing the good word, so I asked around for recommendations. I had some great emailed suggestions and phone calls from one new friend I'd found through blogging. Booking last minute accommodations on Easter weekend was proving difficult, but to my complete shock she generously invited us to stay there due to her recently emptied house (mom of 7, her youngest twin boys had just left for their missions the week before.) Her overwhelming hospitality gifted us a wonderfully unanticipated weekend, especially since my plans to visit with old friends fell through upon arrival. We so enjoyed getting to know their sweet family, as the grown children and grandchildren came for church and Easter festivities then graciously allowed us part in their impromptu musical talent night and family scriptures. It was such a treat - and made me suddenly realize how much I missed my family! Such a blessing to have these new friends who whipped up comfy bedrooms and delicious meals for us with only the slightest of notice - may we so graciously return the favor someday!
